21 January 2017

Our Different Selves



Today we start our journey together towards creating our future that is abundant, fulfilling and precious. Every day is a new beginning and gives us the opportunity to start afresh our life in the most optimistic possible fashion. In order to make our life fulfilling we have to learn how to create balance and well-being in four core areas of our life. When our Physical Well-Being, Emotional Well-Being, Financial Well-Being and Spiritual Well-Being reaches a state of balance and harmony, it is then that we achieve inner fulfillment, inner peace and inner joy. With all the information and resources available to us in abundance we have to wonder why we are still struggling to create what we know to be desirable and move away from what we know to be undesirable. As we keep exploring ourselves we find that many things hold us back and we have to find antidotes and solutions to overcome our limitations. As we continue our inner struggle to best express and implement our ideas we find that there are many obstacles in our path and we have to learn how to leap over our hurdles. As we focus on gaining a deeper understanding of various aspects of our life we undergo the process of self-discovery. We will now set the highest intention of being the best that we can be. Our focus must be to hone our skills in all areas of our life so that we can create and maintain our overall well-being. In order to develop new skills we have to first understand our inner dialog and who we are being with respect to specific topics, events, people and organizations. And as we understand ourselves more deeply we finally reach to a point where we have to make our choices and never to look back again. Choice is the point where we begin to define who we are. We choose who we are to be. We become who we are because of our choices. This is our greatest gift and we are all responsible for all the choices we make in our life. So let us choose wisely and let us become the best version of who we can be. Let us design our path to reach to the destination of ultimate fulfillment.

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HIGHER SELF: The eternal quest for the meaning and purpose of our life always strives to reach the state of balance and harmony among the four core areas of our life. Some of us call it enlightenment, some of us call it nirvana, some of us call it freedom, some of us call it divine grace, some of us call it bliss and some of us call it being one with the universe. We feel great when we are flowing in the direction of abundance and prosperity. We feel amazing when our passion and actions are in alignment while we stride towards our goals and vision. We feel great when our manifestations are effortless and all seems to be happening automatically. We feel connected with everyone and all become part of our family, while we look for ways to contribute towards the great good of all. We create new ideas for abundance, prosperity and success. We set new goals and regularly achieve our milestones. We learn to open ourselves to embrace positive feelings of compassion, gratitude and belongingness. We call this high state of being our HIGHER SELF.

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WEAKER SELF: In our day to day life we have many responsibilities and several goals that keep us busy. Many of us have mastered several aspects of our life. Some of us are wealthy, some of us are highly educated, some of us are very healthy and some of us have amazing relationships. However, if we are unfulfilled in any one area of our life then we feel something is missing and there is a constant inner struggle to reach our Higher Self. This state of un-fulfillment can be due to negative thought patterns, lack of correct knowledge, our current lifestyle choices, unhealthy patters of behavior or less practice of right techniques. This state can also be caused because of unrealistic expectation, unhealthy food habits, stressful job environment, addictions towards tobacco, drugs or alcohol, financial worries, negative attitude towards life or lack of proper exercise and physical activities. We call this lower state of being our WEAKER SELF.

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CURIOUS SELF: Many times we have questions about how things work. Just like children we too are always interested in new discoveries and ways of enhancing our existing ways of doing things. We ask questions, we brainstorm and we debate. Sometimes we argue and fight over our points-of-view. We are always inquisitive about new ideas. We also encourage others to learn new things. Discovering new answers to existing questions and finding innovative answers to complex questions is all part of our curious nature. The more curious we are, the more we learn about life and about ourselves. Sooner or later all our questions get answered and we move on to new and more difficult questions. This state of curiosity ensures our continuous growth and the evolution of our species. We call this state of being our CURIOUS SELF.

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LIGHTER SELF: Humor allows us to feel great even when we are under tremendous stress. Imagine we all are in attendance at a spiritual retreat. Some of us are seeking self-discovery while some of us are trying to forget what we have discovered about ourselves. Everyone is meditating and busy attempting to let go of their past failures and regrets. It’s time to share our individual experiences. One old lady in her eighties starts to share. “I was a faithful and devoted wife to my husband for about 60 long years. We got married in our early twenties. My beloved husband passed away last week leaving me all alone to live out the rest of my life in solitude. During our Letting-Go Meditation I realized that I do not miss my husband at all. This letting go of the past stuff is quite powerful indeed. I think I will start dating again. Next time my grand-daughter goes for one of those speed dating events I will join her. I am wondering if I should also sign-up for the love and intimacy courses.” Then one elderly gentleman in his eighties responds. “I too got married when we were in our twenties. My wife is not very spiritual. She only likes to smoke pot and loves to complain all the time. I did not divorce her because I truly believed in my heart that one day she would choose good habits. During our Self-Discovery Meditation I realized I have been wasting my precious time over a lost cause. This self-discovery stuff is quite powerful indeed. Will you go out with me if I dumped my wife tonight? We can sign-up for the love and intimacy courses together and get the couples discount along with the senior citizen discount.” Being easy going and taking things lightly helps us in enjoying our life even when things around us seem tough. Let us get serious about lightening up and having fun. We call this state of being our LIGHTER SELF.

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ROMANTIC SELF: No matter what anyone says, everyone on this planet wants to be in love. Many of us have experienced break-ups, divorces, disagreements, fights, emotional stress, anger, loss of a loved one, betrayal, separations, cheating, manipulation or loss of faith. All the pain is real and healing in needed to recover. These things could happen again. However, we all still want to be in love and find true intimacy. Many of us have demanding jobs, travel for work, family responsibility, health concerns, financial burdens, tough circumstances, lack of opportunity, etc. All this takes away our energy, leaves us tried and stressful, makes us feel that we are at the effect of life and sometimes makes us want to quit and give up. However, we all still want to be in love and find true intimacy. Many of us are addicted to smoking, gambling, pornography, alcohol, over-eating, sugar, medications, drugs, adultery, television, electronic devices, online websites, etc. It is challenging to break these addictions in order to create healthy Love Relationships. However, we all still want to be in love and find true intimacy. Creating the opportunity for love to enter into our life is one of the most important skills to learn. We call this state of being our ROMANTIC SELF.

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CURRENT SELF: We are all working towards our ideal lifestyle. Where we are today is our current state of being that includes the cumulative sum of all our existing skills sets and ways of doing things. Our habits are caused by repetitions of what we do in order to accomplish our tasks. As we learn new skills our current lifestyle enhances, creating improved opportunities in our life. And as we get accustomed to mastering our new skills to the point it becomes easy and second nature to us, our current state of being reaches to a new higher level. Our current state of being is always under transformation as we learn new things, meet new people and take on new projects. We call this state of being our CURRENT SELF.

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TRANSFORMING SELF: Where we are today in our life is the cumulative results of all our past actions, thoughts, feelings, accomplishments and desires. Our purpose and mission in life is to build real life practical skills in order to create the necessary balance and harmony needed to overcome our inner struggles and achieve our Higher Self. As we learn new skills we get stronger and confident, our awareness increases and we get more clarity about life. Everyone has a different path nevertheless our destination is the same. We all want to experience the best that life has to offer us and we want to be the best possible version of who we can be. Once we reach our Higher Self then life becomes easy and manifesting our desires becomes effortless. We indeed become one with the universe and start to live our life with fulfillment. The process of enhancing our Weaker Self in order for our Current Self to reach to our Higher Self is the transformation that all of us must undergo in order to create an amazing life worth living. This is how we can live our life with fulfillment and abundant joy. We call this state of being our TRANSFORMING SELF.

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MISERABLE SELF: Sometimes we feel disappointed that we were unable to achieve our goals. Sometimes our investment decisions cause us financial losses making us feel anger and fear. Sometime we feel regret over doing something that caused our loved ones pain and suffering. Sometimes we feel anguish over losing a loved one in a tragic accident. Sometimes we feel helpless to change our life circumstances and have to endure abuse from others. Sometimes we feel ashamed of our lack of accomplishments. Sometimes we are embarrassed about our overweight body. Sometimes we feel anxious when we are uncertain about the future. Sometimes we are waiting for someone to acknowledge us and we only get rejection. Sometimes we get deeply heart-broken after a Love Relationship breaks up. All of this makes us feel heavy inside and causes us to lose interest in things we enjoyed before. We feel we have tried everything and are at the mercy of our circumstances. We feel miserable, unhappy and depressed. We call this state of being our MISERABLE SELF.

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FRUSTRATED SELF: When things don’t go our way and our actions start to back-fire on us, when someone we care for very much does not appreciate our affection, when we are expecting something to happen and there are delays, when something is not getting done exactly the way we want it to happen, when we are anxiously waiting for an important phone call, when we are unable to reach our goals due to unforeseen hurdles, when we exercise regularly yet are unable to lose weight, when our flight gets delayed or canceled or when we are patiently teaching yet our students forget the basics. All of this causes us to feel very annoyed and frustrated. We call this state of being our FRUSTRATED SELF.

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ASSERTIVE SELF: When we are easily able to express our ideas and our feelings at work and in our relationships it feels very good. Being able to express our opinions diplomatically and professionally during conflict with other team-members in a constructive fashion is an important skill to hone. Being able to decline requests that are not in alignment with our goals and setting healthy boundaries is important towards being efficient and productive. We have to learn to be clear and specific when expressing our needs and goals since everyone is busy with their own tasks. We call this state of being our ASSERTIVE SELF.

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