Time Management for Meditation

OVERWHELMED SELF: “I do not have time for Meditation at all. I am very busy with my current responsibilities. I wish I had more time for myself. My job takes up all my time. I have so many things to do. I have long commute to work each day. I miss my deadlines if I don't work really hard. I am overwhelmed all the time. At times, I take on too much work load. I am afraid that if I refuse any task I will lose my job or suffer losses in my business. Sometimes I wish I had an assistant to help me. I have family responsibilities to handle. From where will I get time to Meditate?”

Yes, we all have several goals and our day-to-day tasks keeps us very busy. Sometimes we really wish we could just take a week-long vacation at our favorite holiday spot. With our rapid growing technology and ever increasing awareness of what we can accomplish, we simply find it difficult to create time for ourselves. So how can we feel that we are in control of our time? How can we feel that we have plenty of time to do the things we love to do? How can we increase our productivity and achieve our goals faster? And how can we reach to a point we never have to say that we do not have time for ourselves and for Meditation?

We have to learn few things:
(1) To estimate accurately how much time a specific task will take
(2) To learn how to say ‘NO’ to requests or tasks that are not in our best interest and are insignificant
(3) To learn how to say ‘YES” to requests and opportunities that are important and will help us achieve our spiritual fulfillment and our goals
(4) To learn to delegate tasks to others so that we are not struggling with our projects

This requires practice and takes self discipline. When estimating how much time a specific task will take always add 25% extra buffer to the timeline, because life throws us obstacles and hurdles that we may not be able to anticipate. For some of us it is very difficult to say ‘NO’ to our boss or someone in authority or someone we care about. So we have to practice beforehand. “I am learning to be more efficient with my time. At this moment I am unable to fulfill your request since I have allocated all my time to other tasks. Thank you for your kind understanding.” After our practice sessions we are more prepared and ready to deliver our message. Learning to say ‘YES’ to important opportunities can be equally tough. So similarly we have to practice beforehand. “I am very interested in learning how to increase my productivity. You have years of experience in this area. It would be great if you can give me some advice on how I can improve my performance.” As we practice eliminating meaningless activities from our lives and filling it with more meaningful activities we will be getting one step closer to spiritual fulfillment and achieving our life goals.

HIGHER SELF: “I am in complete control of my schedule. I know how to make time for tasks that are important or urgent. I have plenty of time for myself and my loved ones. I work limited hours and reach my financial goals easily. My work place is very near to my house. We go for vacations several times a year. I complete all my tasks very quickly and before the deadlines. I know how to delegate tasks to others. I choose to accept only those requests from others that are in my best interest. I can easily decline requests that cause me to become stressful. I am not shy of asking others for help and guidance. I do not waste my time on meaningless activities. I can easily estimate the amount of time it will take me to complete a specific task. I respect everyone’s time and promptly and clearly communicate any changes in our appointments. I only focus on being efficient and productive. My relationship with Time Management is very strong and works perfectly. I can easily find time for my Daily Meditation Practice.”

We Love Meditation... :-)

Orchard Valley to Silicon Valley

Orchard Valley to Silicon Valley (31^st Dec 2011)

Yesterday I found out a little bit more about my fourth home, that which we now call Silicon Valley. Fifty years ago it was known as the "Valley of the Heart's Delight" because of its rich soil, fruit trees, and farms. Children would wander through the blooming orchards on their way to school picking up walnuts, cherries, apricots, plums, and prunes. There were miles and miles of beautiful fields and orchards in full bloom. This major transition from an agricultural community to a technology hub with so many great corporations is so amazing, I am still letting it all in. Turns out that the local newspaper did a great job of capturing this transition to the best of their abilities. Until now I thought of them as just another local newspaper agency, but today I bow down and salute them for their efforts, as I have developed a renewed sense of respect for them. I also found SCVHA (www.siliconvalleyhistorical.org), their mission is to research and record the Silicon Valley phenomenon. How cool is that. J

Major transitions are a part of life...
- From good ones… from childhood to teenage, from dating to marriage, from student to working professional, from citizen to solider, from actor to Oscar winner, from novice to expert, from athlete to gold medalist, from lost to found, from failure to success, from broken to whole...
- To not so good ones… from CEO to jobless, from relationship to divorce, from success to failure, from home to prison, from billionaire to bankrupt, from homeowner to tenant, from colorful to black and white, from alive to 6 feet under...

Some transitions are graduations from one stage of life to another. Some are forced due to circumstances. Some are exploratory in nature. Some happen fast and some happen slow. As much as we love what we currently posses and have cherished for a long time, we cannot avoid such transitions as being a part of our lives. It defines who we are. “Change is Inevitable”. The skills to develop during major transitions are to allow for smooth changes while allowing growth and preservation of the good old memories for nostalgic get-togethers in the future. We have pictures taken, online videos, personal diaries, blogs, auto biographies, etc. Embracing the new and letting go of the old involves a leap of faith.

Three years ago I had hurt my right shoulder and got what is known as a “pinched nerve” which  made my right arm a little bit weak and caused me some annoying shoulder pains. My first chiropractor treated me and told me I had to see him three times a week for complete healing to take place. I simply did not believe him and once the pain diminished I stopped visiting him. Needless to say there was discomfort and I dragged on my injury for few more weeks. I was too stubborn to listen to my chiropractor to complete the full recommend treatment program. Then one day I found myself at the San Jose downtown fun-fair and there was a chiropractor booth checking people on the spot. I wandered around and it took me a good hour before I walked in to get myself examined. Then I signed-up for the x-ray examination and spine check-up at the clinic. This chiropractor (www.chiropracticfirst.com) also recommended the same for getting adjusted three times a week and I was thinking to myself if this is for real. The treatment seems very long since I was of the mindset of quick treatment plans. Nevertheless, he asked me to take a leap of faith and to enroll in the treatment program for one month and if I did not feel any better I could leave and he would refund my first installment. I took the leap of faith and enrolled into the treatment program. Before you know it I was feeling great within days and I managed completed the full recommend treatment program. This was a major transition to me because chiropractic methodologies are very different from general medical healthcare methodologies and I had to learn a lot of new ways of doing things along the way.

During major transitions many things will show up doubts, discomfort, resistance, pain, loss of faith, chaos, desire to quit. These are all natural, learn to be gentle with them to ensure smooth transitions. Mother Nature in all her infinite wisdom created seasons and cycles for a reason. Flow with the changes and embrace all the different manifestations of life. Hold on only to that which is dear to your heart, that which you must preserve, your spirit, love and well-being. The rest are all temporary forms of manifestation of the divine energy and must be allowed to freely travel in and through you. Take this moment to reflect on your transitory journey of life. Remember one of your long lost friend, say "Thank you, I miss you". 

While starting on your Spiritual Journey and beginning to practice your Daily Meditation Routine, the same feelings of doubts and uneasiness will show-up from time to time, that occurs during major transitions. Since meditation has the power to cause major internal transitions and shifts in belief systems, in the lives of those who start to practice meditation on a regular basis. Plan to stay disciplined with your meditation practice and keep returning back to your meditation routine whenever there is an unexpected break. Eat healthy fresh fruits, raw vegetables and drink plenty of water to keep your digestive system working optimally. Forgive others and stay in the high state of gratitude and happiness throughout the day by focusing on positive aspects in others. Keep working on your goals and have high ambitions in life. And be prepared to take the leap of faith when life offers you your next major transition. Good Luck... J

We Love Meditation

Who are we?

CURIOUS SELF: “Who are we?” - This question has been asked and attempted to be answered over millions of times, yet, every time this question is raised, it is followed by silence and an uncomfortable knowing that we realistically do not have an accurate, complete and permanent answer. Most religions have attempted to define us, yet, in our hearts we know that each definition is incomplete. Science has attempted to classify us, yet, in our hearts we know that there are many mysteries that Science has yet to solve. Spirituality has attempted to answer this question by describing us as infinite beings, yet, in our hearts we know that once we die, we may cease to exist. Maybe our spirit lives forever, but, are we sure of that? Governments have tried to control us by making us citizens, yet, in our hearts we know that we all share the same set of feelings ranging from anger, grief, disappointment, resentment, fear and doubt to courage, compassion, peace, love, belongingness and fulfillment. Companies have tried to manage us by giving us job titles, yet, in our hearts we know that we can perform more effectively if we are given more freedom. Every explanation seems elusive or incomplete, every answer seems vague or ambiguous, every description seems imperfect or biased and every definition seems to have exceptions.

So who are we? Are we energy? Some of us believe we are energy and we attract what we think of and feel the most. Some of us believe we are energy magnets and our thoughts create our future, the way we feel creates our opportunities and our actions get influenced by what we hold strongly in our minds. Is this true? Like energy attracts like energy. So if we hold on to positive thoughts and develop positive feelings then we will attract positive friends and positive opportunities into our lives. Maybe this is true, but does this happen all the time? If we daily recite positive affirmations then our lives start to shift in the desired direction of our choosing. Affirmations are powerful and many people have managed to change their habits, but does this work all the time? If we are energy and our mind is susceptible to positive suggestions then we could simply have positive video recordings played to children and the next generation would be free of addictions, free of unhealthy foods, free of alcohol, free of anxiety, free of failed relationships, free of tobacco, free of drugs, free of racism, free of crime and free of conflicts. We could provide positive video recordings to prisoners, have them recite positive affirmation daily and when they get released they will have become model citizens. But we all know that this is not the case and positive affirmations have limited effect. So, back to our question, are we really energy? Can we control our thoughts and feelings thereby creating our future? In any case, let’s continue exploring…

So who are we? Are we consciousness? Some of us believe we are consciousness and we are becoming more aware of ourselves. Some of us believe that in the beginning there was an absolute consciousness and it could not experience itself since it was whole and complete. So in order to complete its experiential component the absolute consciousness decided to split itself into infinite beings and once the expansion happened each part started to experience itself in relationship with the other parts and thus the absolute consciousness was now able to experience every aspect of itself in the relative expanded universe. Does this make any sense? If the absolute consciousness was whole and complete to begin with, then it would probably not crave any new experiences, so it would not attempt to split itself. And if the absolute consciousness was yearning something so passionately that it had to undergo a significant transformation into infinite beings, then maybe, the absolute consciousness was an unstable entity and it was pre-destined to expand, thereby, violating the original premise that it was whole and complete. Anyways, back to our question, are we really consciousness? If so, is it possible for us to experience the original absolute consciousness? Do thoughts and feelings create our consciousness or does our consciousness create our thoughts and feelings? Does our consciousness change over time or does it remain relatively static during our limited lifetime? Does consciousness play a role in evolution or is evolution a part of consciousness? In any case, let’s continue exploring…

So who are we? Are we global citizen? Some of us believe we are global citizens and we are creating world peace by our professional contributions, philanthropic ventures and international co-operation. Some of us believe we are making our countries stronger and increasing harmony among nations. Though it is quite apparent that the more efforts we undertake toward world peace, the more it seems that there is international unrest. A century ago there was no terrorism, computer hacking, identity theft or online bullying. However, there was genocide, world wars, slavery and inequality. So did these old forms of cruelty get replaced by these new forms of heartlessness? We create powerful weapons that are used to fuel hostility among different nations, create civil volatility in under-developed countries, equip criminals to carry out attacks on innocent people and increase overall violence at our planet. Why is our law and justice system and defense programs designed with powerful weapons as a critical fundamental component? Few decades ago with the principles of Non-Violence, India implemented their freedom struggle plan without use of weapons and was able to neutralize the mighty British Empire with Non-cooperation and peaceful demonstrations. Anyways, back to our question, are we really global citizens? How can we apply peaceful principles in our fight against terrorism? How can we relate to computer hackers in a compassionate manner and inspire them to strengthen the internet instead of exploiting its vulnerabilities? How can we thwart identity thieves and inspire them to create wealth without violating the rights of others, thereby pursuing an honest living? How can we make social media safer and encourage everyone to be polite and courteous online? In any case, let’s continue exploring…

So who are we? Are we evolutionary products? Some of us believe in the theory of evolution and that we are descendants of a common universal ancestor. Some of us believe that we may evolve into a new species millions of years from now. Why is it that evolution decided that after ~5 min of oxygen deprivation to our brain we will die, why not 5 hrs? Evolution had millions of years to design us so why not give us a little bit more capacity to store oxygen in our blood and improve our odds of survival? Let’s assume that the reason a giraffe has a very long neck is that the giraffe’s ancestor constantly reached for leaves on higher branches, then why did some of our human ancestors not practice underwater diving to increase their lung capacity and thereby evolve into humans who could survive up to 5 hrs of oxygen deprivation. On the other hand, if evolution would have given us 5 hrs capacity to handle oxygen deprivation what would have been the other biological consequences? Would we have been taller? Would we be having larger torsos? Would we still have the intellectual capacity to build tools? And most importantly would that have given our species better odds of survival? Let’s examine another evolutionary theory. What if we create a space ship and send 1 million human beings for space exploration for a 10 million year round trip? The space ship will not have gravity allowing the space travelers to glide and space walk inside their space ship, due to which each subsequent generation will not need stronger bones and they will develop bodies which are lighter. So when the space ship returns how will the new colony adapt to our planet earth? Will they need wheel chairs? And if they continue their stay on earth with the natural gravity after 10 million years will their offspring regain their bone strength? Anyways, back to our question, are we really evolutionary products? Why did evolution design us the way we are today? How will the next evolutionary changes impact us? Will we be able to influence future generation’s evolutionary features if we wanted to? How will genetic research play a role in our evolution once our current levels of moral restrictions get overshadowed by scientific discoveries and we decide to experiment with our DNA? In any case, let’s continue exploring….

So who are we? Are we co-creators? Some of us believe that we all are co-creators of our experiences and together we can transform the world into a better place. Some of us believe that each individual contributes towards the outcome of the entire human race. If this is the case then why is it possible for some of us to develop hostility towards others? Why do some of us seek to dominate the weaker folks? Why do we co-create financial scams and swindle money from innocent investors? How is it that we have co-created so many complex social issues that leads to relationship failures and mistrust? How did we so easily manage to co-create the tobacco industry that manufactures cigarettes which causes cancer? Anyways, back to our question, are we really co-creators? Is it possible to co-create a tobacco free society? Is it possible to co-create a society free of discrimination and animosity?

HIGHER SELF: “WE ARE OUR CHOICES” Our current state of being is determined by all the choices we make. Each action we take however trivial contributes to our overall results. We ultimately become who we choose to be. We are energy. We are consciousness. We are global citizens. We are evolutionary products. We are co-creators. We can add several more states of being to our existence. We are happy. We are love. We are peace. We are friendly. We are compassionate. We are powerful. We are productive. We are fun. We are excited. We are innovative. We are courageous. We are patriotic. We are generous. We are emphatic. We are healthy. We are co-operative. We are faithful. We are wealth creators. We are wise. Once we realize that “WE ARE OUR CHOICES” acceptance of many difficult things becomes relatively easy. We can easily accept our true nature which includes all the desirable and all the undesirable qualities. We can relate to all the various concepts and theories that have existed. We can forgive all the injustices and animosity committed towards us. We can make peace with our unfulfilled expectations. We can let go of our disappointments. We can transform our grief and sorrow into serenity and inner fulfillment. We can find clarity in the chaos and confusion of overwhelming information overload. We can choose to be happy. We can courageously follow our hearts true desires. We can be assertive and compassionate. We can create harmony and wellbeing. We can create healthy goals and set healthy boundaries.

Let us focus our complete attention on all the 7+ Billion human beings, all the animals, all the plants, all the insects, all the birds, our entire planet, our entire solar system, our entire Milky Way galaxy and our entire universe. Everything that is happening is happening in our “NOW MOMENT”. Take some time to absorb this feeling. Take some time to experience this happening. Take some time to become aware of the present moment. Take some time to let go of the past. Take some time to surrender to the future. Take some time to consolidate all our thoughts. Take some time to embrace all our feelings. Take some time to feel the powerful connection with everything around us. Take some time to experience our existence in the infinite expanding space around us. Take some time to become one with the universe. Take some time to breathe in deeply and breathe out deeply and continue to experience this state. All that happens in our now moment is good. Some happenings are undesirable and we must do our best to fight and overcome the undesirable. Yet, overall in the grand scheme of things, all that happens is good. And we are nothing but this goodness that is happening right now. It is entirely up to us to recognize this whole goodness and choose it completely.

For some of us the answer “WE ARE OUR CHOICES” to the question “Who are we?” will resonate strongly and for some of us the simplistic answers like we are energy, we are consciousness, we are global citizens, we are evolutionary products or we are co-creators will resonate strongly. It’s all good. No matter how we experience the inquiry of who we are, it will eventually lead us to “WE ARE OUR CHOICES”.

(A) Physical Well-Being:

      - Let us choose Mindful Eating

      - Let us choose Wellness

      - Let us choose Exercise, Yoga, Stretching and Fitness Centers

      - Let us choose Vegetarian Lifestyle

      - Let us choose to Quit Caffeine, Nicotine and Alcohol

      - Let us choose to eat more Whole Food rather than Processed Foods

      - Let us choose Meditation

(B) Emotional Well-Being:

      - Let us choose Happiness

      - Let us choose Love

      - Let us choose Letting Go

      - Let us choose Gratitude

      - Let us choose Intimacy

      - Let us choose Passion

      - Let us choose Meditation

(C) Financial Well-Being:

      - Let us choose Abundance

      - Let us choose Success

      - Let us choose Integrity

      - Let us choose Our Future

      - Let us choose Learning new Professional Skills

      - Let us choose team-work, new projects and Finance Courses

      - Let us choose Meditation

(D) Spiritual Well-Being:

      - Let us choose Inner Peace

      - Let us choose Oneness

      - Let us choose Trust

      - Let us choose Forgiveness

      - Let us choose Compassion

      - Let us choose Simplicity

      - Let us choose Courage

      - Let us choose Meditation

We Love Meditation.

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Letting Go of Past Love Relationships

CURIOUS SELF: “Why is Letting Go of Past Love Relationship so important? What is the most effective method of moving on and finding happiness? Why are Love Relationships sometimes so painful experiences even when I did my best? I though we were soulmates but why was I wrong? Will my pain and suffering end soon? How long does it take to let go of Past Love Relationships?"

Working on letting go of all past romantic and intimate relationships and negativity from our life experiences is a good idea. Amazingly I had not realized that I had stored so much of emotional repressed energy inside of me and that was manifesting itself as self-doubt and resistance to new loving relationships and progress in my life. As I started unraveling more and more of the past and doing the Letting Go exercises, I found myself with more energy, inner fulfillment and inner peace. Understanding the reasons and importance of letting go of the past was one the biggest steps that helped me in this process. What I will share here are the reasons to let go of the past and effective tools that will help in releasing all past relationships, old beliefs systems and suppressed emotions.

Why letting go of the past is so important: When someone does not fully honor and respect who we are creating ourselves to be in the future, they simply do not deserve to be a part of our life. When unresolved and incomplete relationships, people, events are lingering around inside of us they will prevent us from moving forward and achieving our full potential and dreams. It might seem very difficult to let go of someone we love, but it must be done. It might be very difficult to let go of a project that we enjoyed a lot, but it must be done. It might be very difficult to let go of old belief systems that we were addicted to, that gave us a false sense of superiority, yet it must be done. It might be very difficult to let go of the comfort of being in the familiar even though it is counter-productive, yet it must be done. The past is only an illusion and exists in our imagination and all the emotions attached to it are unreal. The past has occurred the way it did and nothing we do can alter the past. Power lies in the now moment and the choice to let go of the past and be free to create a powerful future that fulfills us deeply.

Exercises to Let Go of Past Relationships: 

(1) Write down the entire relationship experience on paper, then tear the paper, repeat this process for two weeks.

(2) Find a trusted friend, share your entire story, repeat this process with the same friend or other trusted friends.

(3) Stand in front of the mirror, speak out loud the entire relationship experience, repeat this process for two weeks.

(4) Compose an email with the entire relationship experience, send the email to yourself, read it the next day, delete the email and repeat the process for two weeks.

(5) Leave yourself a voice mail or use voice recording software and narrate the entire relationship experience, listen to the recording the next day, delete the recording and repeat the process for two weeks.

(6) Sit in front of an empty chair, image the person is in front of you, in first-person, address the imaginary person in front of you and say whatever there is you want to say to this person to find closure and repeat the process for two weeks.

(7) Write down the entire relationship experience and post it to yourself, when you receive it, read it and tear the letter, repeat the process for two weeks.

(8) Find a group that works on relationships and emotions, share your story with the group.

(9) Listen to online videos on letting go for 15 min daily.

(10) Read online articles and books on letting go.

(11) List down all the lessons learned and future precautions that will make a difference.

(12) Help another friends or person that is struggling with letting go of past relationships and life experiences.

(13) Daily Meditation Routine that includes forgiveness of Love Partners for all the pain and suffering that they have caused us.

Remember it is very important to let go of all the past relationships and experiences to create an abundant future, there will be times when the feelings return, don’t fight these feelings, let them come and release them using the above exercises and very soon all the past experiences will fade way and create a space for new and fun relationships and experiences to enter into our lives. Letting go of the past is like cleaning our home, doing it regularly will keep our lives full of happiness, peace and prosperity. Letting go of the past is like buying a new piece of land and building our dream house. Letting go of the past is like taking a vacation to an exotic island with our soulmate. Letting go of the past is like losing 10 lbs of excess fat and making us slim and trim. Always remember to be patient, allow for the healing process to fully take effect, never rush or force ourselves, kindness, gentleness and love are the best tonics for letting go of the past relationships.

Goodbye Brooklyn (1st Jun 2013)

With deep sorrow in my heart I must say Goodbye to you Brooklyn, I have grown to love you very much and always wished for us to be together, nevertheless, life has its own ways and love is beyond one’s control. I have been working very hard on emotionally letting go of you and our love connection for more than over a year now since when I last saw you. Today with my new Love Relationship Coach I discussed about you and our love connection. She told me how courageous I was that I stood up for myself and was strong enough to let go of something so beautiful, so precious, so divine, so important. I clearly remember the first time I saw you in Oct 2007 and feel like it was just yesterday, your mesmerizing eyes and your captivating energy, it was so fulfilling, so real, so pure. That day I did not know you would help me so much in my growth and healing process, you would be a great friend to me, you would bring out the best in me, you would make me happy, you would make me feel love and joy.

As I got to know you more, I found that you had such a special soul, a person with great passion for life, you had a fighting spirit, you were so confident about everything and you were so gifted and intelligent. Every moment that I spent with you was special and made me stronger, every day that I thought about your words made me mature and wise, every time that I prayed for you made me peaceful, every time I shared myself with you made me feel complete. I remember the day you shared with me about how much you loved your grandma, how you would go visit the place where her last remains were scattered, I deeply felt your sorrow and your pain. I remember the day when someone keyed your car, you were emotionally hurt, that time you started crying in my arms, I deeply felt your sorrow and your pain. I remember the last time we met, I told you that it’s time for us to go our separate ways, what we wanted out of life was very different and what we expected from each other would no longer work, you were calm and cool, yet you did not want to lose our love connection, I deeply felt your sorrow and your pain.

I remember the day I shared about my first Love Relationship with you, how you encouraged me to let her go, you told me to enjoy my future, you said how I should focus on myself, that I will have a great life, how strange is it now that I find myself neither able to let go of her after 11 years nor able to let go of you after 2 years. Sometimes I wonder, why do I have such strong emotions and love connections that seem to have no real future, why do I have to go though these love relationships to seek my happiness, why do I have to endure the trials and hardships of being deeply in love and reaching a place where I then have to say Goodbye. Like you always say, “Only Time Will Tell” and I am eagerly waiting for time to give me the answers to every tear that I have shed, every heart-break that I have to heal from, every memory that I want to erase, every fear that I want to conquer. I remember the day when you were upset on me because I had got you late for work the previous week, you said I got you into trouble and when I apologized to you, you forgave me instantly and said it was ok, that moment was so precious, I got to know how kind you really were, I got to experience your tenderness and gentleness. 

I remember when you wanted a puppy, we got a precious yorkie, Bentley. I never would have imagined that I would grow to love Bentley so much as I do, I miss Bentley a lot and feel so sad that I will never see him again, he is so much like you, strong, loveable, cute, adorable and mischievous. I remember once we tried to get him out of his hiding place and he was causing us so much trouble, in a fun way though. I remember while he was growing up, suddenly he started to jump very high and it was so amazing watching him. For a 4 year long Love Journey with you, for being such a great part of my life, for being such an important contribution to my growth, for being such a trusted friend, for being such a blessing to me, I thank you Brooklyn from the bottom of my heart and wish that wherever you are and whatever you do, may success and happiness always follow you and be by your side. Goodbye Brooklyn.

Goodbye Reena (4^th Aug 2013)

Today I want to share about an amazing Love connection that I had with a most kind-hearted woman for 5 years. We met each other only once when I had been to India in 2006, nevertheless, our connection was strong enough to survive for such a long time period and we also created several education projects for under-privileged children that it makes me so happy today that I found Reena and had the good fortune to share many precious emotional moments with her while making a difference in the lives of several children. The first time I called her was in Sep 2006 with the intention of getting to know her better as a possible life partner for marriage. We connected strongly and we spoke with each other every day at length and bonded so well. Her curiosity, her sharpness, her wit, her tenacity, her trust all complimented my compassion, my calmness, my confidence, my wisdom. I was lucky to find a great intimate friend and companion seven seas across in my home land just waiting for me.

I went to India in Nov 2006 during thanks-giving holidays to met her and finalize our marriage if we both hit it off in person as well. Alas, to my dismay, when we met in person I felt we were not a good match and when I expressed my reservations she was heart-broken. To make her feel better we went for a stroll around the neighborhood and we found ourselves at a stalemate. I did not want to give her any false hope and I was hurting myself knowing that we could not be together. I offered that our families have an opportunity to meet and warned her that it’s most likely going to be quite a disaster. She still insisted that she wants to pursue the possibility of marriage so after I returned back to USA, our families met and as I had predicted it was an unpleasant experience for everyone involved. We made peace with the fact that it’s better to move on and for about 6 months we were out of communication. Then one day Kate, one of my crazy Love Friend, encouraged me to call Reena and check how things were going with her. I made the call and turns out that Reena had moved to a new city and found a new job. She was very happy to hear my lovely voice and we started speaking again, sharing what was going on in our lives.

Then one day we decided to start a not-for-profit coaching center for children that will help them in learning and having a better future. For almost a year we were operating the center that supported almost 25 children in their studies. Reena’s family wanted her to get married and I was exploring other relationships and understanding the meaning of life so I did not want to marry her. Finally she chose to get married to her current husband since her father was under a lot of emotional stress wanting to see his daughter settled and happy. I knew that someday Reena would follow the traditional arranged marriage option yet when she told me that she got engaged, I remember a few tears roll down my cheeks, while wishing her a happy and prosperous married life. The day before she was to get married she called me wanting to know if there was any way I would change my mind, if our love was strong enough for me to commit to her, if we could change what was happening, she said she loved me a lot and wished things were different. I still needed time and wanted to wait, but she wanted to go ahead with her marriage. It must have been an emotional roller coaster for her, but she survived and learnt to love her husband. We still continued expanding our education center with computers and full time staff.

As time went by, we continued to talk and share ourselves, we were happy with things in our lives, I would share with her my goals and relationship experiences and she would share with me all the funny silly things going on in her life. Then there came a time when I had mixed feelings about our relationship, I felt it is an incomplete go-no-where type relationship that does not serve anyone. On one hand she had a husband and an intimate phone friend and on the other hand I had some weak short term relationships and an intimate long distance friend, eventually it all felt very complicated, unnecessary, heavy and unfulfilling to me. I finally decided that either I need to end this love triangle or get her husband up to speed on what was really happening or have her leave her husband and have a committed relationship with me even though I was planning on having multiple relationships. Even today I am quite confused on what I really want, so back then it must have been quite a maze of possibilities. Well, long story short she wanted both, her husband and me as an intimate virtual lover. That was that, I could not handle the drama anymore after 5 years and finally I called it quits and broke off all communication with Reena. To this day I love Reena and she loves me, just how strange our love relationship was and what an emotional roller coaster ride for both of us. As I look back at this experience I see so much love, sorrow, disappointment, happiness, compassion, trust, belongingness, confusion, grief and pain. Yet, the one thing that makes this all perfect is that we changed a few children’s lives in a small way no doubt, and for that I am proud of this Love Relationship and will always regard this as one of the greatest achievements of my life even above my MBA and my business success.

Goodbye Soheila (24^th Aug 2013)

Today during my Love Coaching session I discussed about our friendship and how it evolved over time. Even though I wanted to have a Love Relationship with you, I am happy and grateful with how our friendship blossomed and it was an honor to be your friend and companion for several years during which we shared some great memories and blissful moments. Our friendship began at the salsa classes offered by our club house and soon we started spending quality time with each other. I clearly remember once when we went out together you told me about your struggle to return back to US and the hardships you had to face in the process. I was inspired and recommended that you write a book about your amazing journey, I still do hope that one day I find your book online or in a store. I remember while being with you I always felt amazing and intimate, I felt that we had a special connection and that we would be together for a long time. When I had met you I was still recovering from my break-up with Jina and I had lot of sorrow and internal emotional trauma. Being with you made me feel good and in a way you helped me recover and feel alive again. I can’t exactly remember why we stopped seeing each other.

Nevertheless, then I had my Love Relationships with Susmita, Mika, Reena and Kate. I remember I was driving with Kate and we saw your car ahead of us. Kate encouraged me to go speak with you and then we spoke and you were so happy to see me and so was I. Then we continued our friendship for another year until when I asked you to be my girl-friend and you were not willing, when I asked you for the reason you said that I have all the qualities of your potential boyfriend however you did not feel any chemistry with me. At that time I did not quite understand what you meant and felt very defensive, but today I do, anyways, then after couple of years I received some of you mail as I was listed as a reference on school paperwork. We then met again and re-started our broken friendship. At that time you were struggling finding a job and I am glad that today you have a stable job and I am sure that you will very soon find a great position at a great company. I read some of your online reviews and it seems that you are doing an amazing job and all your clients are very happy with your efforts. Keep up the good work, keep applying to new job positions, keep networking, keep going for interviews and before you know it you will be leading and managing a large team of motivated individuals, I have full faith and confidence in your abilities.

Few months ago, last time we met when you came to Sunnyvale and we had dinner together, it was nice to see you and I remember how you were looking at purchasing hair brushes for your friend’s cat. I always thought that you would like dogs more, but I guess you prefer the kitties instead of the canines. At that time, I knew that our friendship was again at a point where we will have to say good-bye to each other, though I knew that you needed my friendship and support. I was aware that just being your friend will not work for me and a Love Relationship between us will not work for you. Nevertheless, I waited for a few days before I asked you for a Love Relationship again. Seems like I never tend to give up. I did want to offer you a choice rather than move on or say goodbye without a reason. This time was a little different though, in the sense I had designed my life to have multiple Love Relationships so I wanted to frame my position and offer in a tactful style as I wanted to give you the best possible chance of accepting and being part of a great adventure. Alas, you choose otherwise and we wished each other good luck and blessings. I hope that you made a wise choice and that life gives you the happiness that you seek. 

As my final words to you I want to capture the things I am most grateful to you for: I thank you for being a great friend to me, I thank you for sharing your time with me, I thank you for introducing me to the Secret and Law of Attraction, I thank you for being a trusted advisor in my Love Relationships, I thank you for gifting me an amazing flower vase, I thank you for sharing your travel struggle story with me, I thank you for introducing me to delicious Persian food, I thank you for introducing me to Zen Green Tea, it’s one of my favorite choices at Star bucks, I thank you for going to Golden Gate Bridge with me, I thank you for having Christmas 2007 dinner with me, I thank you for always being candid with me, I thank you for trying to give our Love Relationship a chance, I thank you for adding some excitement and spark in my life, I thank you for teaching me the value of friendship, I thank you for encouraging me, I thank you for making me a stronger person with more understanding of life and its complexities. Your contributions in my life are very valuable and I will forever be in debt to you for all that I have learnt from you experienced with you. Your innocence, your fears, your trust, your faith, your compassion, your generosity, your struggle, your passion, your pride, your grace all make you a very special person. You will always have a permanent place in my heart and I will always pray for your safety and well-being. Wish me luck in creating my Love Family founded on Intimate Belongingness and being the best that I can be. Good Luck and God Bless You Soheila.

Goodbye Olga (7^th Sep 2013)

Today during my Love Coaching session I shared about my experience with you. I remember I was looking at craigslist posting and found you there, you said something about spirituality and having great fun, so I replied to you and that’s how our Love Relationship began. We met for the first time at the Library in Mountain View and I was very happy to see you. You had blonde hair and mesmerizing eyes, one of my friends called you “Goldie Locks” and truly so, you were indeed very beautiful and charming, except for your stained teeth, which do need some whitening, hopefully you have taken care of that now, hehe. Anyways, I want to take this opportunity to capture our good memories and wish you all the best in your marriage and success in your various crazy ventures of life.

I remember you liked to go to East West Bookstore and during one of the presentations the speaker asked us what would we like to be doing during our final moments of life, and I shared with you that I would like to be wiping someone’s tears, you said what if I could not or would not be in a position to do so, I said that I am committed to a life of compassion and service. I remember once we were at my home and we were restless, you yelled at me for some reason, I was hurt then, not by what you were saying, but by my past hurts and pains that I was recovering from, I was in tears and felt very emotionally fragile as my wounds resurfaced, I guess you were protecting your feelings in being aggressive and strong. Once we were in my car, you had the same high energy tenacious voice, which really frightened me, not in the sense that I was afraid of being hurt or experiencing pain, I was just terrified and scared. Whenever you were aggressive and over passionate you scared me a lot, in a way, I guess my feeble heart was not in a mood to fight back and choose to stay put, just be calm and relaxed. Now that I look back, I can tell that your craziness in some way made me more wise, now I generally refrain from dealing with psychos and high energy people with low consciousness, my ex-business partner was an example too, anything I said was like water on a ducks back, for some reason though his aggressiveness did not frighten me, so I am thinking, it’s the tone or the pitch of the voice. This is turning more into a complaining session rather than a happy goodbye.

Back to good moments, I liked when we went for the Wed meditation session at an Indian home, they were very generous people and their food was great, I am sure they are helping many people in a special way, I liked when we played badminton, we had a really good time together, I liked when we spent time together, I felt very comfortable around you, I liked when we cuddled and experienced intimacy together, those moments are very special to me, I liked our long walks and silly talks, those were good days in our lives, I liked our silent moments when we were just being with each other, I liked when we went for Art of Living meditation and group sessions, those were very fulfilling and educational, I liked to pick you up from work at redwood city, infact once I got into trouble with my client because I had to leave and he had scheduled a presentation, I had to put my foot down and he created a lot of fuss, but I managed to be excused, all the drama for nothing, but a good learning experience though, I liked to give you massages, it made you more relaxed and peaceful, I liked to listen to your silliness, it was quite entertaining, I liked to hold your hands, it made me feel good, basically I liked you quite a lot and miss you.

I see your craziness has manifested itself on youtube and the internet via many ventures, I do hope you are able to monetize your efforts, add value to humanity, I pray for your success, hope that you find the happiness that you sought, also the healing from your past wounds. I also hope that all the time you were yelling and screaming about EGO and letting it go, that you finally have managed to surrender to your EGO, made peace with it. I remember how annoying it was whenever you brought up the subject of EGO, you could never realize that you had a completely misguided view of it, though I don’t blame you,  your life experiences made you who you were when we met, I hope that you have evolved to a higher state, I certainly have. I also hope that the plan you had of creating a wellness center in Nepal becomes a success, I think that was the only meaningful project you had ever envisioned and took actions towards manifesting, if you can manage to make that happen then I will certainly be very proud of you and take my words back that your craziness is a futile attempt to hide your weaknesses. Finally I want to express my gratitude for you being a great companion and love friend in my life journey, I wish things could have been more amicable between us, we could have had a better Love Relationship, we could have played more badminton, we could have done more meditation and we could have been friendlier. You will always be very special to me, I will always miss your energy and craziness, only Kate came anywhere nearly as close to your level of craziness, I miss her too, I also thank you for all the good days that you gave me and helped me in my healing journey towards a healthier and happy life, I never said this to you so my final words to you, “I Love you Olga, take it easy, continue your craziness and whiten your teeth.”

Goodbye Lisa (8^th Sep 2013)

With great sorrow in my heart I must go through this process of saying goodbye to you Lisa, you are so much a part of me that I don’t believe that I will ever forget you or stop loving you, nevertheless, our Love Journey as good as it was and as precious as it was, it belongs in the past and the future is calling me to create a Love Family, so I must let go of all the Love that I have for you to make space for those who will become part of my Love Family, that is the way of life, it demands change and sometimes change means letting go of the most precious thing a person has. Our Love Journey began when I first seen you at your home, I clearly remember you standing tall amongst all your friends, you were so beautiful and alluring, at that time I had no clue that we would bond so strongly and our spirits would be united forever. Today I struggle in my Love Relationships, but I always remember the good times we had together, but before that I must apologize to you for not having appreciated you and taking you for granted many times, I guess I did not know what I had until I lost it. I know you forgive me and hold no resentment or anger, yet, I want you to know how much I care for you and appreciate all the good things you have given me. I must be one of the luckiest man on the planet to have experienced life’s most intimate moments with someone so pure hearted and divine. After we parted Wei and Jina entered into my life when I was doing my MBA, those were tough times, I wish I called more often, spoke with you, made you my friend, but I don’t do friendships, that’s just me, I remember your email where you said you missed me a lot, I wish I had saved that email, it’s lost in time, I remember your tears when I was about to leave for USA, in my excitement I completely forgot about your feelings, though at that time I was immature, did not have much emotional empathy, life taught me the hard way how to understand people, especially women. Sometimes I wonder, if we had met in a different capacity or had we not met each other, how different our lives would have turned out, I would not have been the same person that I am today, open for love, ready to be intimate at the drop of a hat. Well let me take this opportunity to capture our good moments, some bad ones too.

I remember when your roommate cut your dress, you were sitting and crying, I saw you, I didn’t know what was going on, then you showed me your dress, I remember how hurt you were, I feel your pain and sorrow. I remember once mummy was angry about something, she made your mother cry, then she made you cry too, watch you cry I also started crying, I could not hold my tears, then I think daddy intervened, I feel your pain and sorrow. I remember when we lost our precious Love Kids, at that time I did not know how important life is, I wish I knew then, had the knowledge I have today, the loss of our kids must have made you so unhappy, I feel your pain and sorrow. All the hardships, struggles that you have been through, all the pain and suffering that you have been through, I know now how tough it must have been, for I too have endured the same struggles, I am very happy that life gave me the opportunity to experience these sufferings, for had not, then I would not have known you so deeply, realized how precious you are to me.

I want to express my gratitude to you for all the support and love that you provided to me, I owe many of my successes in life to your efforts and emotional support, your intimate companionship made me feel on top of the world, your tasty food made me happy and a little fat, your cheerful demeanor made me relaxed and peaceful. I learnt a lot from you, I gained a unique perspective on life, I understood the true meaning of love, I realized the value of intimate relationships, I am now able to look beyond the surface, look beyond the superficial, go deep within, connect with the core, connect with the spirit, connect with the divine and experience the ultimate oneness and bliss that is reserved for only the enlightened ones. In Oct 2007 I met Brooklyn, she too was very kind and sweet to me, I fell in love with her just like I did with you and Jina, but she did not want to have a permanent Love Relationship with me, I guess just the way I did not want to have a permanent Love Relationship with you, so it evens out after all, but I have forgiven Brooklyn, hold no anger or resentment towards her anymore. Sometimes I wish I could invite all my loved ones under the same roof, have a grand party, that will be the day. I also fell in love with some other amazing women, you know Reena, we build a computer center together, Cici was special to me, Susmita was an exquisite woman, Princess was so feisty, Olga scared me a lot, yet she was so adorable, Olesya was a firecracker, Kira is so classy, Soheila was so difficult, Klaudia and I just got into an argument yesterday, Mika was so intimate with me, Cloe tries to be mean to me, Olivia and I talk about success, Mei is always complaining. I tried to find you in every one of them, yet, I also enjoyed their company, each one of them is unique, special and precious to me, just like you were. I don’t know if I will ever see you again, but I do hope that life gives us the opportunity to meet again, I wonder then how will it be, will I tell you how much I missed you or will I pretend to be fine, I don’t know. What I did not say to you enough while we were together, “I Love you Lisa, you are a part of my spirit and a millions goodbyes will not be able to remove you from my heart, you are in me and I am in you, separate yet united, we shall live in each other’s heart forever.”

Mindset Re-framing Meditation Technique

MISERABLE SELF: “I feel so uneasy today. I was hoping that I would be able to accomplish my goals easily. But instead I failed miserably and I feel so much stress and disappointment. I did my best, but still I made no progress. I wasted so much time and energy, I put in my best efforts and I did everything in my power to make things happen. But instead of getting closer to my milestones, I lost everything. I took advice from everyone I know and nothing worked-out for me. I asked for help from so many people, but many refused to help me out. I even took some courses and tried out different ideas, but all in vain. I just don't know how I can get what I really want and how I can be more happy. I wish I could change the way I feel. I am so lost and I feel that the whole world is against me."

Life is full of challenges and each day we are faced with a lot of responsibilities that we have to handle. As we make progress towards our goals and our responsibilities, sometimes the challenges become obstacles and we may not have the skills or resources to overcome them. There are primarily four areas that we struggle with:

• (A) First, our body and health, we may not feel vitality and vigor due to poor eating habits or addictions to tobacco, alcohol or processed foods, we may not be giving our body the required rest and nutrition it needs or we may be spending too much time at work and over-stressing our body and mind.
• (B) Second, our relationships and emotional state of being, we may not feel happy due to unrealistic expectations from others, we may not feel confident due to the inability to be assertive or we may not feel that others understand us because we have poor communication skills.
• (C) Third, our financial situation and our professional skills, we may not feel free and abundant because we are unable to generate sufficient income or revenues, we may have too much debt because we are unable to manage our expenses wisely, we may lack certain professional skills, since we did not have the opportunity early on in life to attend the required course-work or we may not have developed the right mindset due to wrong advice from others.
• (D) Fourth, our belief systems and our connection with our Higher-Self, we may not feel fulfillment and joy because we do not feel connected with everyone around us, we may not feel compassion because we are over-burdened with our own problems, we may not have time to volunteer at not-for-profits because we are too busy or we may not have a high level of faith because we do not meditate regularly. 

All of these obstacles are very normal and part of our lives. We have the power within ourselves to take control of our life and learn new skills and practice our Daily Meditation Routine in-order to gain more control on different aspects of our life. We will set the highest intentions for ourselves during our Meditation and Let Go of all the negativity and obstacles in our mind. As we re-frame our mindset, we will get new and better ideas that will be more effective and we will shrug off all our past failures and disappointments. Present Now Moment is the only reality that we have 100% control over, so let's take control of our Well-Being and Joy:

• (A) Physical Well-Being: We will honor and respect our body and health, to feel vitality and vigor. We promise our-self that we will eat healthy diet, with plenty of fresh fruits and salads and we will continue to fight our poor eating habits and addictions to tobacco, alcohol and processed foods. We will start giving our body the required rest and nutrition it needs and regular massage from certified therapists. We will develop the correct work-life balance, by not spending too much time at work, to avoid over-stressing our body and mind. We will on-goingly exercise, do stretching, daily walking and keep our body moving and active.

• (B) Emotional Well-Being: We will keep working on our relationships and emotional state of being by giving appreciation and gratitude to all our loved ones, friends and family members. We will learn how to feel happy by setting realistic expectations from others so that we are not disappointed by them, and we can have really good harmonious interaction with everyone. We will learn to be confident, by practicing the skills of being assertive, and speaking our thoughts, in the most diplomatic and influential manner, so that we can generate agreements with others and create win-win situations. We will learn to understand ourselves better, and improve our communication skills so that others can understand us better.

• (C) Financial Well-Being: We will learn the skills necessary to take control of our financial situation and create a plan to on-goingly improve and upgrade our professional skills. We will practice the feelings of freedom and abundance by visualizing successful projects outcomes, by visualizing new sales deals signings, by visualizing new real estate investment opportunities and by visualizing new business and professional opportunities. We will focus on generating new income channels and revenue streams. We will work with credit specialist, to reduce our interest rates and clean-up or credit history, to consolidate all our debts and gradually pay-off all the loans we owe and learn how to manage our expenses wisely and curb our impulsive shopping habits. We will not make excuses of lack of professional skills, due to missed opportunity, and plan on attending new course work, that will help us to be more successful. We will meet successful people over coffee, and take their advice, to develop our right positive abundant mindset, with right know-how from experts, who have proven track record of success in their field of expertise.

• (D) Spiritual Well-Being: We will strengthen our belief systems and our connection with our Higher-Self by finding a great Meditation Coach who can guide us and encourage us to maintain our Daily Meditation Practice. We will find the right Meditation Group and Meditation Center that will support us in our Meditation Practice. We will practice the feelings of fulfillment and joy and learn how we are all connected with each other around us. We will learn to solve our own problems first, by not getting involved in other peoples problems, so that we can develop a high level of compassion and high energy reservoir. Instead of spending time worrying over things we cannot control, we will learn time management, to create time to volunteer at our favorite not-for-profits, because we are can be of service to others. We will learn to have a high level of faith in ourselves because we practice our Daily Meditation regularly and we know that we will make the right choices in life. 

HIGHER SELF: “I feel so joyful today. I am on the right path towards accomplishing all my goals with ease and grace. Even though, in the past I faced a lot of challenges and obstacles, and I felt that I failed many a times and experienced much stress and disappointment. But now, things have totally turned around for me, because I follow my Daily Mindset Re-framing Meditation Technique. I feel that I can on-goingly improve myself and continue to do my best and make progress under the most adverse conditions. I feel all my time and energy is well spent and will give me the success that I am looking for. I promise myself that I will continue to put in my best efforts and I will do everything in my power to make things happen for the better. Each day I am getting closer to my milestones. I feel I have found the best version of myself in everything I do. I seek advice from skilled experts and everything works-out for me perfectly at the right time in the most efficient manner. Even before I ask for help from someone, they offer their help and services to me. Even before I enroll in some courses, I start to get new ideas related to the study material. All my different ideas work-out sooner or later. I am super-confident that I will get everything that I really want and I will be more happy. I know how to change the way I feel. I am so confident, joyful and abundant. I feel that the whole world is working towards making me successful. My Meditation Group is really awesome. We Love Meditation."